Couples Counselling Cairns
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Soul Counselling · Couples Sessions · Cairns
Couples counselling for Cairns and the Far North, wherever the two of you actually are
Christina Feyes is a counsellor with training in psychology, social work and human services, and she works with couples across Cairns and all of Australia by video and phone. Her approach is impartial, both clinical and intuitive, and never about taking sides. It is quiet, practical work that gives a tired relationship room to start healing.
Book a free 15-minute assessment →Research on couples suggests most wait around six years from the first serious sign of trouble before they ask anyone for help, by which time the same argument has usually worn a deep groove. In Queensland, the ABS National Study of Mental Health and Wellbeing found that about 23.7 percent of people aged 16 to 85, close to one in four, lived with a mental disorder in a single year, so the strain many couples carry into the room is very real and very common.
Sources: The Gottman Institute; ABS National Study of Mental Health and Wellbeing, 2020 to 2022.
Five-star Google reviews
Couples keep saying the same thing.
A few sessions in, most couples say the dynamic they couldn’t shift on their own has started to move.
“After a few couple’s sessions with my fiancé, I’m thoroughly impressed with Christina’s intuitive abilities. Her unique approach has been transformative for both of us.”
“The session created real change for me. I felt the shifts straight away — and interestingly my partner, who wasn’t in the session, also experienced an energetic shift later that day.”
“I deal with conflict in my relationships a lot better now. It’s an amazing feeling to look back and see how far I’ve come.”
A simpler healing path
What couples counselling with Soul Counselling looks like
There is nothing clinical or cold about it. It is three simple things done with care, so the two of you can hear each other again instead of bracing for the next round.
See the pattern, not just the fight
Most couples are not really fighting about the dishes, the roster or the phone. Underneath the surface argument sits a pattern, a loop of hurt and defend that both people know by heart. Christina helps you slow that loop down and name what is actually happening, so you can stop treating each other as the problem and start looking at the pattern together.
A calm, structured space, not another argument
A session is not a courtroom and it is not a place to score points. It is a steady, structured space with someone impartial holding the middle, so the harder things can finally be said without the conversation catching fire. You both get to speak and both get to be heard, at a pace that does not tip into the old blow-up.
Come together, or one of you can begin
You do not have to arrive as a matched pair with everything agreed. Some couples come in together, and sometimes one partner starts alone while the other is still deciding. The free 15-minute assessment is where you work out which first step actually fits your situation, with no pressure to commit to anything more.
No pressure
What if your partner is not ready yet
You can begin on your own. It is one of the most common ways couples work starts, and it is far from a waste. When one person changes how they show up, the whole dynamic shifts, because a pattern needs both people to keep repeating it. Christina can help you see what is yours to carry, what belongs to the relationship, and what genuinely needs to change before anything can settle.
And to be honest, the couples who get the most from this rarely walk in certain. Plenty were sceptical, worn out, half expecting it to go nowhere. They just used the free 15 minutes to test the water, and Christina is a steady guide, not a magic fix who repairs a relationship for you.
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Reading for when things feel stuck
If you are not ready to talk to anyone yet, that is completely fine. Sometimes it helps to just read something honest about why couples drift and what quietly brings them back, before you decide on any next step.
Read the couples counselling blogGentle, non-clinical reading for couples weighing things up.
Quick questions
Before you book.
Is couples counselling expensive?
You can find out whether this is right for you without spending anything. Soul Counselling offers a free 15-minute assessment by phone or video, with no card details and no obligation to book further sessions. It is a genuine chance to ask questions, get a feel for how Christina works, and decide at your own pace. There is truly nothing to lose by having that first short conversation before you commit to anything.
Do both partners need to attend the free assessment?
No. It is completely fine for one of you to come to the assessment on your own, especially if your partner is still deciding or working a shift. Many couples begin exactly this way. Christina can talk through your situation, suggest a sensible first step, and there is never any pressure for both people to be present before you start. Your partner can always join later when they feel ready.
Is couples counselling only for relationships in crisis?
Not at all. Plenty of couples come in simply feeling distant, stuck in the same argument, or passing each other between shifts without really connecting. You do not need to be on the brink of separating to benefit. In fact, reaching out earlier, while there is still goodwill between you, often makes the work gentler and the change easier. This is relationship work, not crisis work.
Is there a Soul Counselling clinic in Cairns?
No, there is no clinic in Cairns. All couples work with Christina is online by video or phone, which is what lets her reach couples right across the Far North, from the Cairns CBD and Edmonton out to the Tablelands, the Cassowary Coast, Cape York and the Torres Strait. Soul Counselling’s only physical base is in Southport on the Gold Coast, and sessions with you are held wherever you happen to be.
Can we join from two different locations, and does it work around tourism and hospitality shift rosters?
Yes to both. Because sessions are online, you can be together in one home or join separately from two different places, which suits a partner away for the season or on FIFO. Christina works to fit split shifts and hospitality rosters where she can, including earlier or later times. The free 15-minute assessment is a good moment to work out timing that actually fits your week.
What if only one of us is sure about this?
That is a very common place to start, and it is enough. If one of you is ready and the other is not, the ready partner can begin alone. When one person shifts how they show up, the pattern between you often starts to move too. Christina can help you see what is yours, what belongs to the relationship, and what needs to change, without waiting for both of you to feel certain first.
Is this suitable if we are in crisis or there is family or domestic violence?
No. This is relationship counselling, not emergency or crisis support, and it is not appropriate where there is family or domestic violence or immediate danger. If you or someone you love is at risk right now, please call 000. For confidential family and domestic violence support at any hour, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732. Once things are safe, Christina is glad to talk with you about ongoing couples support.
Start small
Start with a free 15-minute assessment
If any of this rings true, the simplest next step is a free 15-minute assessment by phone or video. No card, no obligation, no pressure to book anything more. It is a short, honest conversation about where things are and whether this feels like a fit, and you have nothing to lose by finding out. Call 0479 144 561 when you are ready.
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Couples counselling that fits a Far North life
Cairns runs on tourism and hospitality, which means seasonal income and rosters that never quite line up, so one partner is heading out as the other comes home and the two of you end up passing rather than meeting. Add a transient and FIFO workforce living far from home and family, wet season heat and humidity keeping everyone shut indoors with short tempers, and thin local services with long waits and long distances, and it is no wonder connection slips down the list. Online sessions are built to work around exactly that.
- Sessions that flex around split shifts, seasonal work and hospitality rosters, including early mornings and later evenings where possible.
- No driving across town or into the CBD after a long shift, from Edmonton, Smithfield, Redlynch or the Esplanade.
- Support that reaches out to the Atherton Tablelands, the Cassowary Coast, Cape York and the Torres Strait, without a long trip into the city.
- A steady option through the wet season, when cabin fever and close quarters wear on even solid relationships.
Sessions are held online and by phone across Cairns and all of Australia. You can also explore all Cairns counselling services.
Support for the whole region
Help that reaches the whole Far North, however you join
Because everything is online, distance and rosters stop being the barrier they usually are, and you can attend together from one home or join separately from two different places, which suits shift work and a partner away for the season. If you would value culturally safe support, Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander led relationship and family services do exist across the Far North, and 13YARN on 13 92 76 offers culturally safe support any time, though Soul Counselling does not claim any cultural specialisation. The point is simply that help can reach you where you are.
Christina works with the dynamic between you rather than deciding who is right, so nobody walks away feeling ganged up on. When only one of you is ready, that person can begin, and the other stays welcome to join later. Nothing is forced, nothing is rushed, and every step is one you choose together.