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Writing from inside the work.
If you’ve found your way here, chances are you’re somewhere between two versions of yourself — a pattern ready to be put down, a story you’re tired of telling, a quieter version of you that’s been waiting underneath.
What follows is slow, unhurried writing for that in-between place. Honest accounts of what counselling and healing actually look like, in the words of the people walking the stages themselves. Take what helps. Leave the rest.
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Counselling JourneyWhen Grief Gets Stuck: Understanding Prolonged Grief
Counselling JourneyBy Christina Feyes, counsellor. An honest look at grief that does not seem to ease.Everyone said it would ease with time. Time has passed, and it has...
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Counselling JourneyAnticipatory Grief: Mourning Before the Loss
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes, counsellor. An honest look at grieving someone who is still here. They are still here. You can still hold their hand, hear their...
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Counselling JourneyGrief After Losing a Parent: When the Ground Shifts
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes, counsellor. An honest look at grieving a parent, at any age. People expect you to manage it. You are an adult, perhaps with...
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Counselling JourneyWhen You Lose a Pet: Grief That Deserves to Be Taken Seriously
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes, counsellor. An honest look at grieving an animal you loved. The house is too quiet. There is no one at the door when...
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Counselling JourneyTeen Counselling: Support for Teenagers Who Are Struggling
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·For teens, and the parents who love them Watching your teenager struggle and not being able to reach them is one of...
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Counselling JourneySomatic Therapy Gold Coast: When Talking Is Not Enough
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · When talking is not enough You have talked it through a hundred times. You understand your story, you...
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Counselling JourneyGrief After Losing a Partner: When the Person Was Your Whole Life
Grief & Loss By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A loss that reshapes everything Losing a partner is not one loss. It is the loss of the person, and then...
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Counselling JourneyWorking With Saint Germain: The Ascended Master and the Violet Flame
Ascended Masters By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·For those drawn to the work Some people come across the name Saint Germain and feel an immediate, inexplicable pull, as though...
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Counselling JourneySuccessful but Unfulfilled? Finding Purpose at a Soul Level
Purpose & Fulfilment By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When the life looks right and feels empty There is a particular kind of unhappiness that does not show up in...
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Counselling JourneyGrief Support Groups Gold Coast: Gentle Groups Forming Now
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Gentle grief support, forming now on the Gold Coast If you are searching for grief support groups on...
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CairnsGrief Support Groups in Cairns: Workshops Forming Now
Cairns Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·You do not have to grieve alone Grief can be one of the loneliest things a person carries, and in a regional...
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Counselling JourneyWinter, Isolation and Low Mood: Counselling in Hobart
Hobart Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When the cold and the dark settle in Hobart winters are long, cold and dark, and they have a way of getting...
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Counselling JourneyWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session in Hobart
Hobart Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What the first session actually feels like Most people book a first counselling session with a small knot of nerves sitting under...
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Counselling JourneyWhen Local Options Are Limited: Online Counselling in Hobart and Tasmania
Hobart Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A smaller city, a wider choice Hobart is a wonderful place to live and a small one, and that smallness shows up...
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Counselling JourneyHow Long Is the Wait to See Someone? Getting Counselling Support Sooner in Hobart
Hobart Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When you cannot wait months One of the quiet cruelties of the system is that the moment you finally reach out is...
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Counselling JourneyFIFO and Mining Life: Counselling for the Roster in Perth
Perth Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Support that fits the roster FIFO work asks something of people that does not show up in the pay packet. The long...
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AdelaideWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session in Adelaide
Adelaide Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What the first session actually feels like Most people book a first counselling session with a small knot of nerves sitting under...
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AdelaideHow Long Is the Wait to See Someone? Getting Counselling Support Sooner in Adelaide
Adelaide Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When you cannot wait weeks One of the quiet cruelties of the system is that the moment you finally reach out is...
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AdelaideOnline and Phone Counselling in Adelaide: Does It Work as Well as In Person?
Adelaide Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·The question worth asking Many people in Adelaide are ready to talk to someone but pause on a single doubt: can counselling...
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AdelaideConfidential Counselling Adelaide: Privacy in a Small-World City
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Discreet support in a small-world city Yes, counselling is confidential. What you say stays private, held within narrow...
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Counselling JourneyCounselling Cost Melbourne: Start With What Is Free
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · The honest answer to the money question If you are in Melbourne and you have been quietly googling...
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Counselling JourneyWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session in Melbourne
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · What a first session in Melbourne really looks like Here is the short answer, so you can stop...
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Counselling JourneyOnline Counselling Melbourne: Does It Work As Well As In Person?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Does online counselling really work for Melbourne? Short answer: for most people, yes. A large body of research...
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Counselling JourneyWinter Low Mood Counselling Melbourne: Getting Through the Grey
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Getting through the grey months Winter low mood is that flat, heavy, withdrawn feeling that settles in as...
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CanberraWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session in Canberra
Canberra Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What the first session actually feels like Most people book a first counselling session with a small knot of nerves sitting under...
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Counselling JourneyHow to Find a Counsellor in Sydney: A Practical Guide
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · A practical guide to choosing well The honest short answer to how to find a counsellor in Sydney...
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CanberraOnline and Phone Counselling in Canberra: Does It Work as Well as In Person?
Canberra Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·The question worth asking Plenty of people in Canberra are ready to talk to someone but pause on one doubt: can counselling...
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Counselling JourneyOnline Counselling Sydney: Does It Work as Well as In Person?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Does online counselling really work for Sydney? Short answer: yes, for most people online counselling works about as...
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CanberraConfidentiality and Counselling in Canberra: Private, and Off Your Record
Canberra Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What stays private, and how In a town built around government, defence and security, a particular worry keeps people from reaching out:...
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CanberraPublic-Service Stress and Burnout: Counselling in Canberra
Canberra Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·For the quiet burnout behind the composure Canberra runs on a particular kind of pressure. Deadlines that move with the political weather,...
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Counselling JourneyAnxiety and Burnout Counselling Sydney: Help for Running on Empty
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · When the pace stops being sustainable If you are a Sydney professional who is wired and tired, dreading...
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Counselling JourneyWhen FIFO Strains a Relationship: Couples Counselling in Perth
Perth Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·For couples living the swing FIFO can be good for a bank balance and quietly hard on a relationship. The leaving and...
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Counselling JourneyCounselling Cost Sydney: Start With What Is Free
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · The honest answer to the money question If you have been googling the cost of counselling in Sydney...
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Counselling JourneyHow Long Is the Wait to See Someone? Getting Counselling Support Sooner in Perth
Perth Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When you cannot wait weeks One of the quiet cruelties of the system is that the moment you finally reach out is...
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CairnsWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session in Cairns
Cairns Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What the first session actually feels like Most people book a first counselling session with a small knot of nerves sitting under...
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Counselling JourneyOnline and Phone Counselling in Perth: Across the Distance and the Rosters
Perth Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Distance is not the obstacle it was Perth is the most isolated capital city in the world, and a lot of life...
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CairnsHow Long Is the Wait to See Someone? Getting Counselling Support Sooner in Cairns
Cairns Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When you cannot wait weeks One of the quiet cruelties of the system is that the moment you finally reach out is...
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CairnsLiving Regional and Remote: Online Counselling in Cairns and the Far North
Cairns Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·The Far North is not too far Living in Cairns and the Far North means a lot of things are further away...
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CairnsShift Work, Hospitality and Seasonal Pressure: Counselling in Cairns
Cairns Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Support that fits irregular hours Cairns runs on tourism, and tourism runs on people working hours that the rest of the world...
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Counselling JourneyWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session in Darwin
Darwin Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What the first session actually feels like Most people book a first counselling session with a small knot of nerves sitting under...
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Counselling JourneyThe Build-Up, Isolation and Low Mood: Counselling in Darwin
Darwin Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When the build-up gets to you Anyone who has lived through a Top End build-up knows it is more than weather. The...
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Counselling JourneyCounselling for Defence Families and a Transient City: Darwin
Darwin Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Support that travels with you Darwin is a defence town and a transient one. Postings bring people in, deployments take them away,...
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Counselling JourneyWhen the Nearest Help Is Far Away: Online Counselling in Darwin and the Territory
Darwin Counselling By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Distance is no longer the barrier In Darwin and across the Territory, one of the biggest barriers to support is simply distance....
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BrisbaneCounselling Wait Times Brisbane: How to Get Support Sooner
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Getting support sooner in Brisbane If you are trying to see a psychologist in Brisbane right now, the...
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BrisbaneCounselling and Medicare in Brisbane: What You Should Know
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · What Brisbane clients should know Here is the honest answer first, because you deserve it up front. In...
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BrisbaneOnline Counselling Brisbane: Does It Work as Well as In Person?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Does online counselling really work for Brisbane? Short answer: for most people, yes. Online and phone counselling works...
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BrisbaneCounselling or Psychology in Brisbane: Which Do You Need?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · An impartial guide for Brisbane Short answer: if you want a formal diagnosis, Medicare-rebated sessions, or medication, start...
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Counselling JourneyCounselling Cost Gold Coast? Start With What Is Free
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · The honest answer to the money question If you have been googling the cost of counselling on the...
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Counselling JourneyOnline Counselling Gold Coast: Does It Work As Well In Person?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · Does online counselling really work as well as in person? Yes. For most people, online and phone counselling...
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Counselling JourneyCounselling or Psychology on the Gold Coast: Which Do You Need?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · An impartial guide to who does what Short answer: if you want a formal diagnosis, Medicare-rebated sessions or...
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Counselling JourneyWhat to Expect From Your First Counselling Session on the Gold Coast
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · What a first session on the Gold Coast really looks like Your first counselling session on the Gold...
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Counselling JourneyUsing NDIS Funding for Counselling: What to Know
NDIS Support By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·When counselling can be funded, and how to check You have NDIS funding, and you are sitting with a quietly practical question:...
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Counselling JourneyHow to Develop Your Intuition Safely
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Simple practices, and why grounding comes first You sense more than you let on, and you would like to trust it more,...
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Counselling JourneyWhat Happens at a Spiritual Development Workshop
Spiritual Growth By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What to expect, and why it is grounded not woo The idea draws you in, and a quiet part of you wonders...
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Counselling JourneyRebuilding Trust After Betrayal
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Whether a relationship can recover, and what it takes Betrayal does not just break a promise. It breaks the sense of safety...
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Counselling JourneySpiritual Awakening or Mental Health Crisis? How to Tell
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why they can look alike, and how to tell Something profound is shifting in you, and you cannot tell whether you are...
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Counselling JourneySigns You Might Be an Empath
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What it means to feel everything, including what is not yours You walk into a room and somehow already know how everyone...
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Counselling JourneyHigh-Functioning Anxiety: Succeeding and Struggling at Once
Anxiety By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Looking fine outside, frantic inside On paper you are doing brilliantly. You meet the deadlines, answer the emails, hold everything together and look...
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Counselling JourneyFight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn: Trauma Responses Explained
Trauma By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·The four survival responses, and why they are not choices You did not choose to freeze. You did not choose to please. In...
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Counselling JourneyHow to Support a Friend Who Is Grieving
Grief & Loss By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What to do when you do not know what to say You want to be there for them, and you are...
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Counselling JourneyAnniversary Grief: Why Certain Dates Hit Hard
Grief & Loss By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why dates reopen loss, and how to move through them You can be doing okay, getting on with ordinary life, and...
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Counselling JourneyWhy Depression Makes Small Things Feel Impossible
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·It is not laziness, and you are not failing The dishes. A shower. A text back. Things that should be easy somehow...
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Counselling JourneyHow to Support a Partner with Depression
Depression By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·What genuinely helps, and how to look after you too Watching someone you love disappear into depression is its own kind of helpless....
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Counselling JourneyWhen One Partner Will Not Go to Counselling
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why it is common, and how starting alone still helps You are ready to get help for the relationship. They are not....
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Counselling JourneyHow to Calm a Racing Mind at 3am
Anxiety By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why the mind races at night, and what helps The house is quiet, everyone else is asleep, and your mind picks this exact...
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Counselling JourneyRebuilding Intimacy When You Have Grown Apart
Marriage By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why closeness fades, and how it quietly returns You still love each other. You are just not sure when you last felt truly...
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Counselling JourneyWhat Is a Highly Sensitive Person? Traits, Signs and How to Thrive
Sensitivity & the Inner Life By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · A complete, gentle guide If you have always felt things more deeply than the people...
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Counselling JourneyHow to Know If You Need Counselling
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·The signs, and the myth of being bad enough Most people wait far longer than they need to. They talk themselves out...
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Counselling JourneyWhy Grief Is Not Linear: The Myth of the Five Stages
Grief & Loss By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why grief loops, and why that is completely normal You may have been told you are in “the anger stage,” or...
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Counselling JourneyDepression vs Burnout: What’s the Difference?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·How to tell them apart, and what helps for each You are exhausted, flat and running on empty, and you genuinely cannot...
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Counselling JourneyWhat Is Complex Trauma (C-PTSD)?
Trauma & Healing By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A clear, gentle explanation of C-PTSD Some people read about PTSD and feel that it almost fits, but not quite. The...
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Counselling JourneyHow to Stop Having the Same Argument
Couples By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Why couples loop, and how to break the cycle Different day, different trigger, exact same fight. If you and your partner keep landing...
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Counselling JourneyAnxiety vs Stress: How to Tell the Difference
Anxiety By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·How to tell them apart, and when to reach out Am I just stressed, or is this anxiety? It is one of the...
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Counselling JourneyCounselling vs Psychology vs Therapy: What’s the Difference?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Plain definitions, and how to choose what you need If you have ever sat with a search bar open, typing and deleting...
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Counselling JourneyMarriage Counselling vs Couples Counselling: What’s the Difference?
Couples & Marriage By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Same room, two doorways in People search for both, and quietly wonder whether they are choosing the wrong one. You type...
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Counselling JourneyWhat Happens in a Free 15-Minute Counselling Assessment
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Exactly what to expect, so the first step feels easier The hardest part is almost always the first call. If the idea...
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Counselling JourneyOnline Counselling vs In-Person: Which Is Right for You?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·An honest comparison to help you choose Not long ago, counselling meant a waiting room and a drive across town. You took...
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Counselling JourneyHow Many Counselling Sessions Do You Actually Need?
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·An honest answer to the question almost everyone asks first Almost everyone asks it, usually quietly, and often before they have even...
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Counselling JourneyMarriage Counselling: When You Have Grown Apart
Marriage & Couples By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A gentle look at the quiet distance that grows in a long marriage Not every marriage in trouble is loud. Some...
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Counselling JourneyDepression Counselling: When Life Feels Heavy
Depression By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A grounded look at heaviness, numbness and coming back to life Depression can make life feel distant, even when nothing on the outside...
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Counselling JourneyIndividual Counselling: What the First Sessions Can Feel Like
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A quiet look at beginning one-to-one counselling Beginning individual counselling can feel strangely vulnerable. You may have carried something for so long...
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Counselling JourneyIntuitive Counselling: What It Means and What It Does Not
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A grounded explanation of intuitive and spiritual counselling The phrase intuitive counselling can make people curious and cautious at the same time....
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Counselling JourneyTrauma Counselling: When Your Body Still Remembers
Trauma By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Safety, pace and choice in trauma work Trauma is not always a memory you can point to cleanly. Sometimes it is the way...
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Counselling JourneyCouples Counselling: When the Same Pattern Keeps Returning
Couples By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·Breaking the loop that keeps returning Most couples do not arrive because of one argument. They arrive because the same pattern keeps finding...
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Counselling JourneyGrief Counselling: When Loss Changes Everything
Grief & Loss By Christina Feyes·~6 min read·A grounded look at grief and learning to carry what changed Grief can make ordinary life feel strangely unfamiliar. The kettle...
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Counselling JourneyAnxiety Counselling: When Your Body Will Not Switch Off
Counselling Journey By Christina Feyes · ~8 min read · A gentle look at anxiety counselling and the nervous system Anxiety often looks calm from the outside. You...